It is the ultimate cool factor word in the power exchange life. I mean does it not sound cool to say “I am natural” followed by anything you state. It is almost always followed by the “I do not need” and goes on to list some thing(s) that many people do in this life. It is a passive aggressive claim of believing one is superior or a puff up ego shout of please do not look too closely at my relationship in what it is from what I say it is.But no amount of actual “naturalness” can be enough if one wants a significant power exchange relationship. Let me stress the word significant to separate from any. Certain none that fall under the level Master/slave on the level most define it.
You do have to have some natural
Oh my, contradict myself practically at the beginning. The natural though I am referring to is the starting point. Where the starting point is can be or maybe stronger is critical to how a person can be in this life. But it is just a starting point and it is never the finishing line.
To be in an M/s relationship a dominant certainly has to have certain things in certain levels in order to lead and dominate the relationship that fuels and satisfy them instead of burden and drains them. I will for brevity and because few can agree will not go into detail but let me write a decent level of leadership skills, want active control and being decisive. Every slave needs on some level to enjoy doing things for the one(s) they care about on a significant level. I mean if one is selfish and inconsiderate then slave is not the role for you.
The point natural does not cut it
We are all natural when it is easy and on our own terms. But M/s TPE does not work that way because as humans and with lives that are just a tad more complex. Every spouse on the planet believes they put their other above themselves for the most part, does not make everyone a natural submissive. Everyone believes they know what is best for their other or for both together for the most part but that does not make everyone a natural dominant.
Let me use my favorite example of what a slave is to wear. Most in a relationship this is a give and go thing. One spouse expresses or shows over time preferences in how they like the other to dress. For many, especially women, we often factor this in even to the point of it being the biggest factor. But we do not always defer to this choice. People usually only do it if they are ok with it and feel like it. So a regular wife knows her husband likes her to wear a nice summer dress over shorts for example. She may wear a dress most days but some days she really feels like wearing shorts and does so without thought. It is the natural points like that M/s couples have to overcome. Now most might think what is the big deal about something like this happening in a “natural” power exchange relationship? The point is when there is nothing from stopping one from doing what they want in the first place then as humans we do not always default to our naturally submissive side we send out messages to our other that do not equate the dynamic we have agreed to.
Same thing with a dominant playing natural dominant which your slave basically lives a day to day existence of not knowing when they do something is going to be wrong because their natural dominant confuses being able to express a preference or want their way in a disagreement about something to go their way. It is just simply more natural for us to not care or blow something off.
It just is not natural
It is not natural for a female slave to always wear her hair the way her Master prefers if it is always one way and length but we do it anyway. It is not natural to always cook a decent meal for our Master. It is easy when tired or hurried to default to normal and take the easy way out or hint/request severely that our guy takes us out in that case. But that is not up to a slave. It is not natural to put our others needs and desires most of the time so far above our own that we do not even think about it.
It is not natural to be able to and certainly always be able to not take the current desire in the moment of your slave and disregard it for reasons that are selfish when one is the dominant. It is not natural for a dominant to make most of the decisions. It is not natural to have a preference and make it a rule knowing that there will be times your slave that you love will find that difficult.
Living this naturally is not going to get you M/s 24/7 significant power exchange
Our lives despite our relationship dynamic are filled with mostly the regular world and us being Mr. and Mrs. Joe Normal. Most of us were raised not to follow or lead in such strict ways and certainly all of us have had plenty of time being single where we had only our stuff to care and deal with. We default to these things when we try just to live our lives and will create a horrendous atmosphere and woeful inconsistency within the dynamic if a couple truly try M/s the “natural” way.
Why most M/s relationships have some rules, rituals, strict adherences to preferences is so that the mindset and atmosphere makes it easier and more enjoyable to go to the tougher and stricter level of domination and obedience. For many of us punishment is an important aspect as not to point out our human failures but to help us motivate ourselves when the always going to be their times we start processing in our normal brain way. We have all these unnatural things in our lives so we can keep two brains on the same page with consistent thoughts and actions and not just hoping.
Live the life for yourself and not others
So forget the cool factor of the more natural we live it the better Master or slave we are. Forget the people that promote cool theories that if you do not match up make you lesser in their eyes, they are idiots lying.
Realize to be in a successful Master/slave relationship means there is no easy middle ground. There are things that will not be natural or things that are normally natural at times will not be. The unnatural things we have set up and practice in these relationships are there to help us and smooth over the rough spots. They are good for relationships and not a strike against your coolness.
If one wants just natural that is great, no problems on my end, but do not expect 24/7 TPE or anything close because that is just not natural.
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