Top Pet Peeves About Message Boards

Hey where else to be cowardly opinionated but in a blog entry. In no order of importance and some specific to this life but some relate to any message board. Those offended, I fully admit to be guilty of some of these on occasion.

1) Writing essays and posting them for people to comment on. – There is nothing wrong with a well thought out and communicated thought. But it is important not to be so lengthy or have so much different things to comment on that attention and focus waivers for the readers. It is also very narcissistic to post a whole essay you wrote, especially when it comes off like you are the first to think about it. That is what blogs like mine are for. ;)

2) Whether innocent or not and whether consciously or subconsciously never plagiarize another person’s comments without giving a shout out to them. – There is nothing wrong in writing something you believe that is the exact same thing some one else wrote and even if it is written similar or different. But even if you already had the thing written out before reading other replies if some one else said something very similar a quick thing like “I agree with” somewhere in your post is proper etiquette.

3) Read the other replies before posting – There are many reasons for this. The thread could have been completely hijacked. The original poster might have cleared some things up in additional postings. Avoid the look of ripping off another(s) post. But it is especially rude to write “I have or did not read other posts, here are my thoughts”. It comes off as rude and very narcissistic.

4) Male dominants promoting themselves. – There are always some coming into message boards because they have been told it is a good way to advertise themselves. The problem is they left the idealized fantasy life of thinking their view is special and better and others are all losers that isolation can bring. They tend to start idiotic topics that sound good in their head with the intention of making themselves look good; topics like “Most dominant men are big fakes and only I know what I am doing” junk. They are never prepared to actually interact with intelligent and experienced people in the life.

5) Speaking in third person – If your other and you think that is cute or helps you feel submissive to do that then by all means do that between yourselves. To force it on others is just annoying. Grow up and be an adult and communicate like an adult. If you do not do that with work and family, do not do it on a message board.

6) The world is not in need of your response. - Do not feel the need to respond to every thread on a message board. If all you can add is “yuk”, “hard limit for me”, hijack the thread for a lame joke or pun and other things while adding nothing to the actual discussion then why post something.

7) Get over yourself. – A message board for most means active discussion for the people writing and reading in a particular thread. Just because you post a lot on a board and/or have written the same thing over and over as topics are constantly repeating it is phenomenally lame to bash people because you are tired of a topic coming up or even lamer providing a link to another thread and in particular your response in that previous thread. I have seen message boards get destroyed or severely damaged by regular posters who fool themselves into thinking that the message board is all about them and their entertainment and advice and not let others enjoy openly discussing things in a fluid setting. Collarme’s message board is very famous for having this problem.

8) Commenting on something in a way you have no business commenting on in that way. – I have zero problems and often enjoy reading things from posters on subjects they do not know about. But I despise people commenting on things that infer they have experience in something they do not. Classic example is a bedroom bottom commenting on M/s 24/7 things by only writing about personal experience. A topic like punishment comes up and one or many of these will respond “My Master never punishes me” or “My only desire is to please my Master”. You are a bedroom bottom by definition you have many more desires and why would your man punish you, he has no agreed power over you to punish you!

9) Commenting on kinks you do not do by only going yuk, sighting specific safety reasons in a tone that comes off a judgmental if others do those things and calling it or deeply inferring it is abuse. – To each their own and stop using an important topic like safety as a way to make yourself feel cool and superior. I can guarantee you I can look at your life and find things you do that are much more dangerous then the ones you make a comment on. Plenty of topics ask about safety to share that information on every kinky thing. Let people discuss what they are into or want to explore and not feel they have to justify it or ignore the thread because a bunch of post addicts hijacked the thread by going “yuck” or “not safe”.

10) Using anecdotal evidence or personal experiences to validate your opinion as factual theory or dismissing other people’s opinions as flat out wrong. – As an RN that actually works in an ER/Trauma center all those convenient stories of new male dominants and non local community dominants sending naïve submissives to the ER or morgue is laughable bull shit. Just the cases I have seen that easily 75% of them involve an older couple that have been doing it together for years and just got to cocky. Does that mean anyone over the age of fifty is an abuser? Of course not! Anecdotal evidence is cheap, lazy and very misleading. Personal experience is just that personal and totally biased by personal preferences and perceptions. If your words cannot form a good opinion or thought using these things to make a point rarely make your opinion more eloquent.