March 28, 2008

Quick guide to female bisexuality

I am not going for deep theoretical discussion with this post. I am just going to delve into the wide variety of situations and debunk some common stereotypes or thoughts from the men out there! Also some things typed will be basic widely known information to many or obviously things that are personal opinion based on my brain and experiences. Also, I am only discussing female bisexuality and if I write bisexuality I am not inferring both female and male.

What is the scope of bisexuality?

Basically a woman might call themselves bisexual anywhere from being attractive and enjoying certain sexual things when the stars align just right to a woman who can form complete monogamous long term relationship with another woman.

Some believe any woman willing to have or has some type of same sex type sexual experience makes one bisexual. I believe there are many women who can have an open mind and do something sexual with another women but with no attraction and no enjoyment from the direct experience. I think many women agree to a MFF threesome after getting hounded by their male other often can be like this. Trust me, I have been with women who I just wanted to grab them and go “why are you here?”

For reference what am I?

I can form complete relationships with a woman but cannot for long term as I have found I need a male. I believe for me this is more about my culture and ideal dreams of life then having anything to do with having to have a cock penetrate me.

Is it true that most women are bisexual and some just do not know it?

No, that is absurd. This misconception comes from three things I believe.

1) Some strange wishful thinking from men.
2) Women will comment on other women about their looks and sexiness which can make it appear they are commenting on I would “do her” or “not do her”.
3) Cool factor: I think for younger non married women it can appear to be cool to hint at least “experimenting” with other women.

Look at it this way; if you got an accurate poll at a male prison you would probably have a high percentage of MM sex. You would not be very smart to conclude that most men are bisexual.

Ok I may not believe that but surely there are more women prone to be bisexual then men?

I do not doubt for a second that a much higher percentage of women have experienced sex with their same gender then men but I just doubt seriously that the science of the human body that somehow that gene is that much more prevalent in women then men.

I look at it this way that a person’s willingness to seek out and try same sex experiences is not just about their DNA but about also overcoming social stigma and harsh judgment. There is a double standard in society as men get zero breaks on this issue but often women not only can get some breaks sometime but can add to their coolness. It is unfortunate but it has been my experience that people form a very different opinion of women whether she has a complete relationship with one or just fools around with one. Men unfortunately if it is found out they have had sex with other men they are thought as being totally homosexual and not to be trusted by their woman.

Do bisexual women find other women attractive the same ways as men find women attractive?

Yes and no. Certainly I find a woman’s physical appearance to be very attractive, hence, why I take the time to collect pictures to put in my posts to keep the men more interested.

But no, for me personally I do not go around and notice first thing how attractive this woman is or not. I also it seems to me clearly need more then looks for my horniness for a woman to kick in. I would have to have a nice feeling for them as a person and they also have to exude sexiness more then basic physical looks on a higher level then most men in my experience.

Couple of examples, most men would want Nicole Kidman over Helen Mirren but to me Nicole Kidman has zero sexiness and Helen Mirren oozes sexiness. No matter how hot Angelina Jolie is and how incredible she would be in bed guessing by her personality, I would not touch her. I though imagine I would enjoy a fling with Ellen Degeneres very much.

Let’s end on discussing some of the common myths.

Common myths of bisexuality:

1) If you and a friend are both bisexual that means you have probably slept with each other.

Sorry, that should never be assumed. Now if a woman is with three friends and they are all bisexual and single the odds are she probably has slept with one of them. ;)

2) If you are bisexual that means you should be open to a poly relationship.

That is a huge no and about 50% of all dominants who dream of two plus female harem tries to promote this stupid concept. Relationships are about hearts and most people regardless of their sexuality do not share hearts.

3) Being bisexual means you need to have sex with both genders to be fulfilled.

Wrong again all those trying to get your woman to do a threesome! I have a monogamous sex brain. When my heart is taken by someone they are the only one I desire to have sex with on my own accord. I can fantasize and dream but I do not get hungry for what I am not getting if I am only with one gender.

4) If you are bisexual you probably love threesomes.

I have been in many threesomes in my life. They ranged from great to horrible. In an all things being equal situation with no heart strings factored into it but just good old fashion sex I would always choose one person over a threesome. There is just so many issues going on in a threesome that often is just not very relaxing which produces the best sex in my opinion.

So there is some little insight on how one woman who is bisexual sees things. Sorry to all those thinking when two bisexual friends get together our clothes automatically fall off or being with us means bring on the threesomes. ;)

5 comments:

Anonymous said...

Dearest lin

It is my opinion that complete monogamy has the advantage of enabling a deep level of devotion. This devotion enables a couple to bind in an intensely strong love. By adding another the dynamic of single-minded devotion is lost.

Love

AKM

Lin said...

I believe to an extent most people are wired for monogamy and in power exchange where sexual relations are freed from emotions, moods and transactional thoughts it very much deepens relationships.

On the other hand for people who can handle non monogamy, which is fewer then the people who try it, it can also very much deepen devotion to the people as it has a small part of taking sex out of the trapping of our other. In other words, I love you for your soul and not as an orgasm machine.

I do not think one way is better then another but whatever works for the people involved. I do think unfortunately the cool factor comes in too many times especially with men who do not think things through enough when pursuing non monogamy.

Lin

Anonymous said...

I agree with your comments on Bi women. My wife is bi and is very picky with whom she plays with, as am I for her. She goes to some Bi-ladies functions mainly for the social interaction with other women of the same mind set. Just because we have Bi friends, does not mean they play with my wife. It also does not mean we have to have a Poly relationship, and that every situation my wonderful wife has with another bi-woman means a instant 3-sum for me. That is far from the truth, but as you pointed out, very close to what the Cyber-theorists believe.

Thomas

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