One of the big hypocrisies that happens when some people discuss this life is far too often is when a submissives is painted to look like they are weak and passive human beings but at the same time are painted to be super obedient and are wanted to anticipate needs and things done to the best with acknowledgment of human limitations. Of course these two things simply do not fit together.
Being assertive and being submissive are not mutually exclusive
Generally, when these things are being discussed there are always one or more people who tend to bring up the question “can one who is assertive also be submissive?”
The answer is actually a simple, duh, of course! In fact is not being assertive pretty much an admired and coveted characteristic for all human beings? The fact is being assertive means being proactive in what one is doing and all dominants kind of dig a slave who is taking their submission and what it requires seriously with conscious effort.
For example, which is preferred a slave who receives directions to plan and prepare for having another couple over for dinner and goes about doing it with only asking a few important questions or one who asks a million questions out of not being able or being afraid to do anything on there own? One is serving in a proactive way and the other has turned their brain off and causing a lot of work and energy onto their Master.
Assertive does not mean selfish or aggressive
Being able to speak up is a good quality. Speaking in a bad tone or something that goes against the agreed upon dynamic is a totally different thing. For example, in questioning a punishment it is one thing to say “could you please expand on your thoughts on why I am being punished Master” then saying “I think I do not deserve to be punished and that if you do punish me then you are doing something wrong”.
Communication and being proactive is good. If horny and wanting to be played with or have sex to ask or doing things that express such sentiment is good. Copping an attitude or questioning the relationship just because you end up not getting played with or having sex when you wanted is selfish.
Let us be real here
Most of the male population enjoys from a small to great level of having a female be dependent on them. To be that person we can rely on for solving our problems or doing things we are ignorant of or do not have the capabilities to do. In many ways when doing such things for us that they are very much acts of love they are showing. For example, I can but dread taking my car in for service but my Master will not allow me to do it but will always do it. To me that is an act of love.
In addition to these things men enjoy very much, so do women, seeing things done by their other that are done expressing I am doing this just for you out of love and caring for you. One does not get that warm fuzzy feeling from the person being so passive and needing so much specific directions or have to get important information out of the other is like pulling teeth. Doing things in an assertive manner in the power exchange area is in fact the lubrication that is needed to show these are in fact acts expressing our love and devotion.
We get what we deserve
Whenever I hear that slaves are not or cannot be assertive I feel sorry because the people who think that are truly headed for a fall. We simply will only find in the end what we believe is there.
So a slave who thinks they cannot be assertive will only find dominants interested in a slave who they see or need to be unassertive. Dominants who think slaves are unassertive and weak will only find this in slaves that are willing to put up with them. The problem is these are damaged souls who cannot deal with mentally healthy other’s and search out defective people like themselves as a way to self medicate.
Being assertive is a good thing that most of us have in some degree and is not some special trait a dominant has and a submissive lacks.
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