Sorry, A Personal Site Rant

Perpetual Motion Self Fulfilling Prophecy

Why does this bug me?

When I log on the personal site/message board that I am active on my settings are to have a random profile pop up. This I am now starting to feel like is the equivalent of trying not to look at something but because you are trying it just makes it worse and you end up reading these random profiles.

I do not know why and know it should not but reading them get on my nerves. Case in point, I just read a profile from a thirty-five year old submissive woman. I think she may have had the stereotype profile for about 50% of all submissive women looking online.


In her profile she only writes about what she exactly wants to maybe possibly if the stars align perfectly in the kink area within a small context of power exchange and then goes into not wanting to do any of this full time with a Dom. Then what does she write, well of course several paragraphs describing her Mr. Forever Right One and make no mistake her words clearly are meant to let the men know Mr. Right must come first. Then like many, her journal entries are filled with negativity as all the men who have contacted her are losers.

Well sweetie they will all be losers to you but it is because of the reflection in the mirror! This woman wants specific but zero commitment on her end kink and maybe a tad power exchange but mainly wants Mr. Right on a fucking Power exchange personal site! I am just going to throw this out, but the I am looking for long term opposites on a site like this are just kind of by definition looking for a real power exchange relationship of some type with commitment to it. Why would a serious dominant give a woman like this the time of day so she only ends up with the losers contacting her. It is like looking for a Jewish man on a Catholic personal site!

Look I do not mean to bash my fellow women as there are a ton of men who are just as bad. To me the parallel being the man who wants a kink friendly 1950’s wife but will bring nothing to the table on his end to these women as they all type out profiles based on poorly thought out fantasies or think they might be drawn to power exchange because of their experiences in vanilla. Dominant men looking for a woman who does not control them by emotions and shows love the way they respond to and women looking for an outgoing leader types.

I also know that for the most insanely idiotic reasons people, especially women, still refuse to be open and honest with others out of fear of being hurt or looking foolish. That a woman I started off describing really does want a long term committed power exchange relationship but is just playing cool about it because she is too scared to be honest.

Well to all the women who are out there like this, here is some tough love:

If you cannot be honest with yourselves let alone with others about your true desires and what you are truly looking for in the secrecy of cyber space you have no chance there or anywhere else. Most of you are well beyond high school so stop acting like you are still in high school. It is not cool and totally unproductive to play the bait/switch, fear of not looking cool and good girls cannot be into this type games.

If you truly want a good man who is dominant well they are going to want a woman who is committed to being submissive and that is not only when and where you feel submissive on your terms but agreed upon levels and areas within an ongoing relationship. The first is role playing which is fine but understand how stupid your search is looking for a fellow role player all the while looking for an honest real man.

Why do these women bother me when I am not a man or single?


It is simple, my time in local communities and on the Internet searching for my one or just hanging out I have to deal with the massive baggage these women leave on the rest of us. I have to deal with the dominants who do not believe words we write, make stupid demands to try to eliminate them but just eliminate themselves and that feeds itself and the most important that too much garbage gets put out there based on trying to woo these women who in the end will never be wooed.

The men out there that come off as losers (not totally losers as there are a lot of them as well but so easy to spot) are because too many of us women cannot be honest with ourselves and for no good reason cannot communicate in an honest and real way toward a man. The byproduct is the loser man who tries to manage an impossible maze that they start to feel they cannot win.

It is the perpetual motion self fulfilling prophecy that in my opinion has become a monster consuming this life.