Random Musings 7/8

Reading versus doing

I think what gets lost when people read about power exchange relationships whether if they have no experience in any type or none in a more severe 24/7 then their own is the scope of what is exactly being done. I had a very nice private message from a woman who was taken back by my example of my Master coming into the bathroom when I was using it to get his cock sucked. She cited how she could not imagine never having any privacy.

But the reality of actually living it is having a lot of privacy. Just like many who shake their head at all the talks of the kink, they way we might be dressed and all the talk of sex and imagine 24/7 kinky sex by all. Basically because something can be done does not mean it is getting done most of the time let alone all the time. My bathroom example for example, I am not allowed to close the door when I use the toilet but that does not mean each time I go my Master joins me when we are together. The reality of it is probably less then ten percent of the time he does anything and most of those times are him wandering by and coming in to talk to me because he just wanted to say something and that boundary of do not talk while I go is not in our relationship.

I think when inexperienced people imagine things of this nature they miss the scope. What is going on is when these types of things we talk about can sound so invasive the reality is far different. Basically just because they can does not mean they always do. For 24/7 TPE relationships acts, dress codes, rules and rituals and a lot of other things are not done just to excite and/or get one or both off. What is going on that a lot of these things do encompass when done are reminders to both that this is a TPE relationship and the owner has the right at anytime to do such things if they want. It has much about creating a healthy power exchange atmosphere and keeping levels of submission and domination more even keel then a roller coaster ride if these things are only done to excite someone in a specific moment.

So a slave may always be naked or dressed in a way for easy access to their body parts for their owner but does not mean or for the slave to expect their owner to use that and to always be feeling them up. But for the slave to always know and be mentally able to handle that their owner can whenever they do in fact want to. It is taking small pieces of privacy here and there out for that wonderful feeling of being submissive and owned and knowing your owner takes that seriously.

Sometimes because they can needs a they did from time to time to drive the point home.

Never judge a book by its cover!

Ok I take pride in not using my blog to make post after post of how wonderful my Master is so allow me this indulgence.

This last weekend Master surprised me with a weekend getaway at a spa resort. He told me he wanted to go someplace very relaxing because of the hectic months I have had and with the wedding approaching hectic months coming up.

His long time secretary and I bonded a lot by comparing how often we either get asked directly or get hinted around as to why we put up with him. My Master has quite a domineering personality and for strangers or people who do not know him that well he can come off in a bad light. But to those who know him he is one of the most generous and considerate persons they know, it just going to be done on his schedule!

So this weekend is the classic example of why I am blessed to have found him. All those questioning him probably do not have spouses in their life willing to do something like that without any hints or begging let alone surprise it on them. I love my Master for his brain and heart and that he thinks of me in such a phenomenal way. I love him for that not the actual spa weekend. The domineering personality is just icing on the cake!

Inquiring minds want to know

Got several private messages and one public comment asking about some specifics about piss play with my Master. Without any rhyme or reason here are some answers to the ones I am willing to share.

My pissing is very much part of my Master’s control which he exercises from time to time. From strictly his amusement to pretty strong acts of domination that are clearly meant as a show of my love and obedience to him.


I have been drinking it since I was first owned at twenty. In terms of not missing a drop that simply depends on how much and how fast it comes out of the faucet. ;) Obviously full bore and a lot I cannot drink it all without a spill but more times then not anything else I can handle. But for convenience and for Master to not have to worry if he does not want that is what funnels were made for especially when Master is watching a game or movie on TV.

A reason I forgot to put in my post of why I love piss play is it is an incredible act of domination that can be done every day. For example my Master had to make sure I was not marked when we went to the spa resort but he did not have worry about how he was using me in this manner. Even if drinking or wearing it is icky a great domination aspect is just forcing your slave to piss other places besides the toilet. It is something easy to do and because it is such a private thing is a good jolt to the senses and therefore very good active domination thing.

Yes, I have had my share of meals that just do not taste quite right because of an added yellow ingredient.

How often is probably the most common question but the most difficult to answer. My Master travels a lot for business and I work roughly three twelve hour night shifts a week for work. Routine day in and day out together time is not in our life. Certainly on a normal couple day or weekend I would say at least 75% of those days involve this play. Certainly the oldie but goodie of when my Master gets up in the morning I kneel in the shower to be pissed on by him but not always as our mornings and especially weekend mornings have other things going on that he does not desire me to spend time taking a shower right after he goes as he has other plans for me. In terms of drinking piss, generally during the week not much outside of a few drops here and there but weekends Master seems to indulge in this aspect.

I am a slave; it is his right, pleasure or convenience to use me this way. It is not about only about foreplay for sex but most of the time just for convenience and for me to show love and devotion to my Master and our dynamic.

Golden Showers From a Fan’s POV

Warning the follow post is about what the title says it is. Those icked out by such a topic you have been warned. In addition, because of the nature of the topic, my passion for it and because my view of how it gets discussed normally is not usually from people like me, this post will be written totally slanted for this type of kink and done with far less filtering of graphic language then my normal posts.

Like anything in life and including the power exchange relationship life I have an absolute belief in a to each their own and what works for the individual or couple is cool philosophy. I am no way endorsing that watersports should be in the toolbox of any power exchange relationship nor do I think I am cooler let alone better then any slave just because I am an eager and willing recipient of this type of play.

Keeping it Real

A shout out for easily my least favorite phrase ever but it is what popped into my head. I will just not write watersports or golden showers the rest of this post. We all SHOULD BE grownups and recognize what this is. It is piss play. It is about pissing on and/or drinking piss. Piss is a far easier thing to type out and a far cooler word for me to imagine.

I am an ER/trauma nurse and a Taoist, in my physical life and in my spirituality combine for me to accept and deal with reality. Reality includes being an open minded adult. Therefore men and women who think a woman should not write or see such topics like this or graphic sex pictures because it is un lady like all the while demand or are a personal porn star slut for their male is simply not reality and in my mind a severe attachment issue with that person. There is proper public behavior for a woman based on cultures but that is public behavior not reading or pretending to be “shocked” by what humans do in private of their homes. One is being a responsible and respectful person. The other is role playing.

Why I love piss play

1) How it turns me on.

My number one fetish is being physically dominated and there is no close second. Certainly any types of piss play even the type of play where I am the one doing the pissing but ordered to is a physical domination. Within that physical domination other things that turn me on naturally are objectification, humiliation and degradation. I have yet to be in a power exchange situation where piss play did not have a strong element of one or each of those things. For me personally only scat play can compare but with less disgusting reactions or need to concentrate to get through it so I can concentrate more on the pleasure of those wonderful feelings.

Would it surprise some reading this that I do not enjoy/crave any of the actual physical aspects of piss play? That I have never dreamt, fantasized or masturbated to thoughts or memories of how piss looks, smells, tastes and feels on me or in me. For those who do not understand this apparent dichotomy I wrote about it in this post that I think is one of best things I have ever written. What I do fantasize about a lot is being humiliated, degraded and objectified through piss play by domination scenarios of past and perhaps future events.

2) For some of us it can be an incredible intimate act.

This sounds weird to some but it is the truth. There are ways for this to be done that give me intensely intimate feelings of being closer and feeling love for my Master. The setting, mood and way it is done can align in a way where his piss whether he pisses on me or makes me drink it and even if it involves my own piss can make me incredibly closer to my Master.

A couple of rather mundane examples that are very intimate feeling to me; 1) while I am on the toilet relieving myself and my Master walks in and has me suck his cock. There is something about the whole situation that is just a reminder that anywhere I am his to do with what he pleases that makes it so intimate. 2) Often my Master has me drink his piss after we have had a pretty intimate sexual encounter. In these instances it feels like just a continuation of us making love like what it is just the most common thing in the world for me to do.

3) For us and always for me it is a strong act of showing my devotion to my Master and our dynamic.

I know to many the concept of having to do something to show our love and devotion to another is considered a sign of a problem. The truth is pretty much all healthy relationships people do things that show our love and devotion to our significant other. People in power exchange relationships tend to gravitate to the more extreme examples/acts. I write about this often but to avoid going off topic I wrote about this specifically in this post.

To me this can often along with what I just wrote above. I lovingly submit to my Master. The fact is I have a high sex drive and even without power exchange in my life I am pretty much anywhere, anytime and anyway person. Nurture and nature have me being responsible and take great pride in keep a good and warm home for family. Part of the great compatibility of a couple is that each other’s needs and desires to feel loved by our others in ways that mean something to us.

For some of us in either role piss play can give off a great expression of love and devotion. It gives me pleasure and honor for me to be with my Master and allow him to do these things to me. I find piss play to have a very overt expression of my love and devotion for my Master. For example, my Master travels a lot on business and I adore it when he finally is home and can greet him at the door kneeling, get to cook him a meal again and serve him in any other way. But to me when he is gone and until he lets me drink his piss when he gets home I will think and crave this act done to me. Not out of any physical pleasure but my love for my Master manifests greatly into practically needing to do this as an expression of my love and devotion.

4) It never get boring or tiring to me.

I am not one to get bored by repetition anyway but I have been a willing participate in watersports for a very long time and I have yet to ever feel ho hum about it being done to me. I mean someone I care for is substituting me for a toilet! I think that at the heart of my love for this type of play is where it is at. That glorious dichotomy of being in a loving relationship where my owner still will use me in one of the lowest ways a person can be used. That active domination that from so many ways there is no way getting around it that this play for me shows me my Master loves our dynamic and is not afraid to truly use me for his pleasure.

How can this be all these things and not just icky!

One word: perspective.

Whenever there is any discussion on some specific action people often form an instant opinion based on their thought or maybe limited experience. That is natural and nothing wrong with that. The problem though when trying to understand is not how one personally may respond but being able to recognize that response might not be universal.

Often when watersports are brought up the discussion is controlled by the many who first and only thought is “yuck, how gross”. To them that is fine but way too often the discussion then is centered on that specific part that often make the discussion totally useless.

Whenever anything is brought up people can only filter it through one way. The most glaring example is ignorant people who cannot understand how a masochist can still be punished effectively by a spanking just like a non masochist. It is all about the atmosphere, expectations, and actions happening all around.


This is the same with piss play. Kneeling in the shower in the morning as your Master pisses on you like most mornings ever so nonchalantly like breathing is going to make me feel strongly objectified. Getting pissed on after being dragged into the bedroom and having very rough and quick hard sex then being left to clean it up will make me feel degraded. Getting dressed up in my sexy best and having a beautiful romantic dinner then after kneeling and taking his cock in my mouth to receive his golden present makes me feel very loved and close to my Master.

It is never the act specifically by itself in a vacuum but how it is done and how the two people feel and react to it.

Hypocrisy of people

There you have a view of piss play from a huge fan. I understand completely why many people have no interest in this type of play. But I always troubled/miffed when people involved in other kinky type things judge this play as somehow wrong compared to other types.

We do not like when people judge us because of our relationship dynamic or the kinks we may do. But yet for some people this does not stop them from judging others on the very same basis.

To each there own and for me, bring on the piss.